IDIOT! Oh, by the way, this is my first blog.

(I feel like my first blog should be something like an introduction of myself, but I'm mad. So hey y'all. I'm blogging. Tell me if I do this wrong.)


Sometimes I wonder if this kid can hear himself think. Seriously, what is the thought process involved in his decision-making? Oh, right. There isn't one.

This is one of my good friends we're talking about here. But he's extremely dense when it comes to girls. He's that stereo-typical boy who crushes on really pretty or popular girls. Which means he knows absolutely nothing about them. I happened to be fairly friendly with the last one he was 'in love with'.
"She's beautiful," he told me,"And smart and funny!"
She's a nice girl. Giggly, somewhat unfocused. Lacking in the common sense department. Nothing like his description at all. (In her defense, she's a sweet girl. I like having her as a friend.)

But that's not who he's in love with now. No, my dear friend's got a soft spot for a different girl. She doesn't like him very much, I know that. In fact, none of her friends do at all. Poor kid. He thinks they all get along just fine.
So, he asks her to dance at Naval Ball (it's Prom, guys. Prom for all four years. We just don't call it that.) But her friend pulled her away before she could.
And now he's asking me what it all means. Does she dislike him? Was her friend "saving" her? Should he give up?
The answer:

Yes.

Yes, the girl you apparently are in love with, the girl of your dreams, the one you were made for; yes, in fact, she doesn't like you.

But do I say that?

No.

There are some things in life you have to figure out yourself. You can't just have people relaying emotions and feelings behind everyone's back. So I refuse to tell him. I want him to find out what he needs to know...not by asking around, not by guesswork.....by outright asking her.

Easier said than done, I know. But isn't it worth something, finally letting out all of those feelings you've had for so long? Thousands of couples never were and never will be, simply because the boy, or the girl, or both could never, or would never, say anything. I won't let my friend be another one of millions.

But he says he can't do it. He's afraid she'll think its awkward, and won't talk to him for awhile.

WHATS THE POINT OF LIKING HER?! You can't be afraid of rejection; if it means something to you, chase after it. If she won't talk you because she thought it was wierd you liked her....well, was she worth it?

I wish he could understand this is the only way. (Or I wish he could at least understand the difference between liking someone and thinking they're pretty....that would save us all some trouble. -sigh-)

My friend are always in that situation. I just tell them, "Well, darlin'... There's the lies, and the truth. You, my friend, have to walk up to *insertnamehere* and straight up ask of the truth... Either that or ask for a total lie... Or, just tell them how you feel, and brace yourself for being ditched, or the total explosion of feelings..." and then I just walk away.
I use that advice for myself...

-shakes head-
I can't rightly say its easier to say your feelings out oud, partially because I'm not the crushing-type, but it certainly calls for a lot less confusion later, and heck, I think people respect you more.
Thanks for commenting guys. ^^

Don't worry, Newms, you can blog however you like. ^^

But anywho . . . brilliance. That is like the perfect frame of mind to have! It's so nice to know that other people don't think you're weird for wanting to straight out say stuff like this. xD I really do hope your friend learns it, too.

That's a relief xP

Oh, he won't ever learn....But one can hope.